kamus perempuan

tersengeh2 cam kerang busuk aku baca buku Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
some phrase that men should know and women should avoid:
just for fun!

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when woman says:

"We never go out"

women actually mean: "I feel like going out and doing something together. We always have such a fun time, and I love being with you. What do you think? Would you take me out to dinner? It has been a few days since we went out."

but men may hear: "You are not doing your job. What a dissapointment you have turned out to be, We never do anything together anymore because you are lazy, unromantic, and just boring"

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when woman says:

"I am so tired, I can't do anything"

women actually mean: "I have been doing so much today. I really need a rest before I can do anything more. I am so lucky to have your support. Would you give me a hug and reassure me that I am doing a good job and that I deserve a rest?"
but men may hear: "I do everything and you do nothing. You should do more. I can't do it all. I feel so hopeless. I want a 'real man' to live with. Picking you was a big mistake."

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when woman says:

"I want to forget everything"

women actually mean: "I want you to know that I love my work and my life but today I love my work and my life but today I am so overwhelmed. I would love to do something really nurturing for myself before I have to be responsible again. Would you ask me 'What's the matter?' and then listen with empathy without offering any solutions? I just want to feel you understanding the pressures I feel. It would make me feel so much better. It helps me to relax. Tomorrow I will get back to being responsible and handling things"

but men may hear: "I have to do so much that I don't want to do. I am so unhappy with you and our relationship. I want a better partner who can make my life more fulfilling, you are doing a terrible job"

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when a woman says:

"This house is always a mess"

women actually mean: "Today I feel like relaxing, but the house is so messy. I am frustrated and I need a rest. I hope you don't expect me to clean it all up. Would you agree with me that it is a mess and then offer to help clean part of it?"

but men may hear: "This house is a mess because of you. I do everything possible to clean it up, before I have finished, you have messed it up again. You are lazy slob and I don't want to live with you unless you change. Clean up or clear out!"

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when a woman says:

"No one listens to me"

women actually mean: "I am afraid I am boring to you. I am afraid you are no longer interested in me. I seem to be very sensitive today. Would you give me some special attention? I would love it. I've had a hard day and feel as though no one wants to hear what I have to say. Would you listen to me and continue to ask me supportive questions such as:'What happened today? What else happened? How did you feel? Also support me by saying caring, acknowledging and reassuring statements such as:'Tell me more' or 'That's right' or 'I know what you mean' or 'I understand'. Or just listen, and occasionally when I pause make one of these reassuring sounds: 'oh', 'humps', 'uh-huh' and 'hmmm'.

but men may hear: "I give you my attention but you don't listen to me. You used to. You have become very boring person to be with. I want someone exciting and interesting and you are definitely not that person. You have disappointed me. You are selfish, uncaring and bad"
lots more!
but to lazy to type lor...
hehe


p/s: i donno whether this works for Gay or Lesbo~